Goals Do Not Rule My Life

February was a weird month for me. I guess that is funny to say since we have been in a global pandemic for a year and basically everything is weird but don’t get me started. Maybe it was due to the fact that I was stuck in the house for 15 plus days. ❄️❄️☃️ Perhaps it was because my main task during this time was to carve paths in knee deep snow so the pugs could go potty outside avoiding accidents in the house. 🐶🐶 February could be summarized with me doing sprints outside with the girls to try to get them go to the bathroom before we all developed hypothermia. 🥶All I know is this was not great for my mental health. I had cabin fever for sure but this point in time also gave me time to think and evaluate my life. Oh boy… you know where this is going… don’t worry – it isn’t that bad.🤔

I have prided myself with my resilience to cope with different obstacles that life has thrown my way. Certainly, the pandemic or bad weather was not going to be the one that side-lined me. I also have tried to mute all the noise around politics and each party taking jabs at one another. It is so ridiculous at this point – I call us the Divided States of America – who would have ever guessed – not me for sure. ⚔️ The alignment of the world is off and the only thing I can do – is turn it inward and work on me. 🌍🤦🏻‍♀️

Robin died over 2.5 years ago, and I am amazed at how much I have grown and continue to develop into a different person. Some call it aging – I would like to think of it as EVOLUTION. 🙌🏻My priorities have changed now. I once had a life where I was too busy, running from one place to the next – just multi-tasking on steroids. Not even sure what I was doing but certain I was just gliding over my existence. 😬 Now I yearn for slow, uncomplicated, wellness, presence, experiences, and connections.🧘🏻‍♀️ I like the freedom I have today, the simple moments such as sitting on the couch with my sleeping pugs (even if one has farted and it smells really bad – just taking it in OM – experiencing it). 💩All of a sudden, I am the one with the time while everyone else speeds around me and it is a weird feeling.💨

I think Robin would be proud of me as he was great at being present. He fell upon this lifestyle quite early and enjoyed it while I nagged him. Why don’t you do something? Why don’t you set goals? He liked his routine – and he was content and unapologetic.💁🏻‍♂️Little did I know that I would learn this lesson long after he was gone. I just wish sometimes that we had more time to do nothing together. But with all that, I still get a ton done – I think I am more productive than I ever have been – it is just on my own terms and that is the way I want it. I now understand what he knew for years… what a smart guy and I had to understand from lose that I was not seeing the big picture.🎥

On another note, February also gave me an opportunity to evaluate one of my long-term goals which I know I have shared in past blogs… that is my hair. 💇🏻‍♀️For over 4 years now, I was on the quest to grow my hair to be one length. From all accounts, I probably achieved 97% of this mission. There was still some hair in the front that just never made it to one length. My hair definitely grew like a mullet – always shorter in the front and longer in the back – whatever, not relevant to the story.👯‍♂️However, it occurred to me that this hairstyle was not that flattering. I just never could get it to be exactly what I had envisioned. In addition, I started fixating on what seemed like a large forehead – which I never noticed I had until I grew my hair out. The “Bob” made me examine new elements of my face that I never perceived as an issue until I had one length hair. Wonderful by-product of a harmless endeavor, right? 😜So, after careful thought, endless selfies with my hair folded on my face and reviewing old pictures, I decided it was time to deal with reality – I needed more hair framing my face – otherwise known as bangs. I did not come to this decision easy as I worked extremely hard – multiple years of nurturing my perceived utopia … and now I was just going to throw it all away. Finally, I had enough, called my hair stylist and friend Pavlina and with some encouragement – I am now sporting longer bangs and guess what? I think I look better and younger – yeah. No regret just a realization that I was maybe chasing the wrong goal.🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

Although this story is quite shallow (to some not me), it made me think that I was more focused on the end game – achieving the result than questioning if this was the right aspiration. And it is really something that can be applied to all our lives. Goals are to motivate you to reach a dream however, circumstances change along the way and maybe just maybe so should the target.📌 For my entire life, I had a vision to achieve a successful career which was defined by level and money. I wanted to make a big and positive impact on the people I worked with and turn the organization into a place where everyone loved coming to work and thus organization success. I wanted to have a happy family life with a great partner, a thriving child and for us not to have any financial burdens. 💰💵 The problem was for me to deliver these outcomes, I became too goal oriented and did not enjoy the ride.🚗 I was only concentrating on the result and the events that occurred were just blurbs in the middle. I think I have finally realized that the journey is just as important as achieving the objective. I mean it is no fun not to relish the middle parts which essentially are where you are spending most of your time anyways. 🥳

Well, February is over, and the sun is shining again, the snow has melted, and my pondering is over for now. I no longer will have sagas on growing my hair (which I am sure will please everyone reading here)- it’s done and call it a wrap as I adjust to my life with bangs. However, the bigger lesson,🗒I am not going to beat myself up and measure success by attaining arbitrary goals that may or may not be where I need to go. My new mantra – ride the waves and adjust the destination as needed… peace and love once again.✌🏻❤️

2 thoughts on “Goals Do Not Rule My Life

  1. I made your story!!!!! ❤️😘🎊🎉
    Thank you Risa!!! Spring is definitely coming up fast, you are very beautiful kind smart funny superwoman!!!!👊🏻👍🏻

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